The Good Man's Chivalry Dilemmaby Bob Hurt, 30 May 2016
Women. Charles Krauthammer in 1998 raised the thorny matter of feminism killing chivalry. See his article below. He makes the point that "women and children" going to the lifeboats first makes no sense in modern times where feminists demand that women stand equal to men. That they go with the children to the lifeboats equates them to children, needing man's protection. It definitely does not make them man's equal, and it raises the question of why men should not go first with the children to the lifeboats, since men can certainly care for children as well as can women, particularly since most women don't breastfeed their babies at all, if for long.
Now, to cement woman's equality with man, women serve on the Supreme Court, in Congress, serve on the front line of military conflicts, pilot combat craft of various kinds, and now even command the entire army of the Western USA and campaign to become President. So, why shouldn't man's chivalry, protection of women as weaker and putatively inferior, go ahead and die a long overdue death?
I can think of one reason. Women generally do not have the brute strength of men, and in physical combat, they will generally lose to men unless they distract the men with an offer of sex.
And there we have the linchpin of the argument against Krauthammer's pesky question. Humans have lived on the planet for the past million years. Today we see women in commercials and in public flaunting their physical presence with lipstick, pantyhose, high heels, glittering jewelry, provocative clothing, sassy hair styles, cute ways of walking, twerking, etc., ALL calculated to lure men into accepting their sexual pleasures. Never mind that the law gives women a pass for becoming so irresistible to men of excessive testosterone who sexually molest women, even those who claim they don't want that kind of attention.
Men can always argue that if women didn't want that attention, they shouldn't dress and act so sexy. Women honestly sometimes admit that they want the attention, but only from the men they wish to target. And some will confess that they dress provocatively in order to weaken men against whom they compete or whose approval they seek, such as in job applications.
I personally believe that for most of the past million years women have traded sexual favors to men for security. Yes, in a manner of speaking, that quest gave birth to the world's oldest profession. And as a consequence, humankind has through selective breeding produced the kind of men today who respond reliably to women's sexual provocation, and women who cannot resist behaving sexually provocatively. Those who don't provoke or respond adequately get bred out of the population because members of the opposite sex generally don't want them.
In other words, ancient humans selectively mated such that modern day women have diminutive size compared to men and tend toward that ancient willingness to trade sexual favors for security. That explains their overtly sexually appealing or enticing manner of dress, makeup, and comportment. They just cannot help it, and men just cannot help feeling attracted to them because of it.
That also drives men impulsively to want to defend and protect women. And it makes men annoyed and frustrated for women to spurn such efforts. That explains why men have loathed, or not responded well to, feminism that seeks to insist that men and women are equal.
I submit that the brains of men and women function differently from one another as a result of that selective breeding over the past million years. Demonstrably, men have a better grasp of spatial relationships, have better single-minded focus on the task at hand, and do math measurably better than women. Furthermore, women seem to excel at nurturing roles, have better tolerance to pain, and multitask better than men. Men also have larger brains than women.
But I make this main conjecture in raising this issue: all self-respecting men worth their salt will, for the foreseeable future, feel chivalrous toward women, and intuitively want women to get into the lifeboat first. Our ancestors have bred us men that way. That explains why the feminist agenda causes us men such psychic agony, and why most self-respecting women reject the feminist agenda as well. It goes against our in-bred nature.
Generally neither men nor women want to get rid of chivalry. Bottom line, humans have customized their female descendants to swap sexual favors to men for security. I believe we humans shall continue that tradition apace for millennia to come.
Thank you, Ladies. How can I ever adequately express my gratitude to you?